What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. Mostly! Sometimes, that’s not the case, especially if you have difficulty identifying or expressing your sexual needs, desires or orientation.
As a relational integrative sex positive therapist, I understand how difficult and vulnerable it can feel to talk about sexuality, especially if you’re not sure how your desires or experiences will be received. Whether it’s your first time discussing it with a therapist or you’ve struggled with feeling misunderstood in the past, the thought of opening up can be overwhelming. But it’s also a vital part of personal growth and healing.
For me, therapy is a space where you can explore all aspects of your sexuality in an open, compassionate, and non-judgmental environment. As a queer, neurodiverse person (autistic with ADHD), I know firsthand how our identities shape the way we relate to ourselves, our bodies, and our desires. My lived experiences, coupled with my ongoing learning, shape how I approach these conversations with clients.
In my practice, I strive to create a sex-positive space. This means fostering an environment where your sexual expression is treated with respect, curiosity, and compassion. If you’re ready to explore your sexuality or are seeking a sex positive therapist who affirms and respects all forms of sexual expression, I invite you to read on to see how I approach these important conversations.
What Does It Mean to Be Sex-Positive?
Being sex-positive, for me, is about creating a safe, inclusive space where you can feel comfortable exploring your sexuality, desires, and relationships without fear of judgment. Here’s what sex positive therapy looks like in my practice:
1. Non-judgmental support
During counselling for sexuality sessions, I offer a space where your desires, fantasies, and sexual preferences are treated with empathy, understanding, and respect. There’s no room for shame in our work together—just openness.
2. Affirming sexual expression
I believe that consensual sexual expression is a natural, healthy part of life. Whether you’re exploring your gender identity, sexual preferences, or intimate desires, I’m here to support you in a way that feels authentic and empowering.
3. Honouring diversity
As a queer and neurodiverse person, I bring a deep respect for the diverse ways people experience sexuality and relationships. I believe there’s no “one right way” to express who you are, and each person’s journey is unique. I approach each individual with openness and compassion, helping you explore your own path.
4. Creating space for all forms of sexual expression
From kink and BDSM to non-monogamy, from fluid sexualities to sex work, as a sex positive therapist, I foster a space where these topics are discussed openly, without pathologising. Your sexual expression is valid, no matter what form it takes.
5. Empowering your choice
Your sexual autonomy is central to the work I do. I respect your right to make choices about how you engage with your own sexuality. My sex positive approach to therapy is to create a space where you feel safe and supported in your decisions.
6. Challenging societal norms
Being queer and neurodiverse myself, I understand the impact of societal expectations and how they shape our understanding of sexuality. I am mindful of the oppressive cultural narratives that often marginalise or stigmatise people, especially in terms of gender and sexuality, and I work to offer a broader, more inclusive perspective.
7. Exploring body liberation
My counselling for sexuality and gender identity goes beyond body positivity, embracing body neutrality and liberation. I encourage you to develop a relationship with your body that feels freeing and empowering, helping you let go of societal judgments and embrace your whole self.
8. Encouraging curiosity
Sexuality is an evolving and dynamic part of who we are. I believe that curiosity about our desires is a valuable tool for self-discovery and growth. Whether you’re exploring new aspects of your sexuality or simply seeking to understand your desires more deeply, I’ll support you through the process.
Why a Sex-Positive Approach Matters in Therapy
Sexuality is an integral part of our identities, yet it is often the most difficult to discuss, especially when we fear being judged. As a sex positive therapist, I understand how systemic oppression, societal expectations, and cultural norms can impact how we relate to our own desires and experiences. My role as a therapist is to provide a space where those fears can be safely unpacked, allowing you to explore your sexual self without shame, guilt, or fear.
Whether you’re dealing with sexual trauma, exploring your gender or sexual identity, or simply want a space where you can talk openly about your desires, I’m here to help. In my sex positive therapy, I bring my own experiences as a queer and neurodiverse person into the therapeutic process, offering empathy and understanding from a place of shared vulnerability.
Ready to Explore Your Sexuality in Therapy?
If you’re ready to begin exploring your sexuality with a relational integrative sex positive therapist who understands the complexities of identity and desires, I invite you to make contact. Together, we can create a safe space for you to explore your sexuality and identity with curiosity and care.
Reach out today to schedule a free consultation or ask any questions about how we might work together. Sex positive therapy can be a transformative space for self-discovery, and I would be honoured to support you on that journey.
Are you struggling with your sexual identity? My sessions can help. With counselling for sexuality, you can instil a positive and confident approach to your most intimate desires without feeling belittled. As a registered counsellor and psychotherapist, I will work with you to make small but impactful changes.
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